Thursday, May 30, 2013

Update on me and a crazy doctor's visit! - By Emalyn

I'm almost 2 months old!  I can now give out huge smiles to people and coo to talk.  My neck is getting strong and I love to look around.  Sometimes I love to sleep, other times, not so much.  I like to keep mom and dad guessing how my naps will go each day, but I do sleep pretty well at night.  I also love to eat and mom is sure I am 11 lbs by now.  I was 10.5 a week ago when I was weighed at the doctor's.

Speaking of the doctor's, why we went there was a new crazy!  When I was about 4 weeks, my mommy noticed I had a firm bump on my arm and it kept getting bigger.  After about a week, it got a white head so mommy popped it (I didn't like it!) and a bunch of stuff came out.  Mommy said it was like a huge zit!  Mommy kept it clean and tried to hep it get better with hydrogen peroxide and triple antibiotic cream.  It got smaller but then would get stuff in it again.  After two weeks of it just not going away, she took me to the doctor and we got some unexpected information.

Here in Oman, they give the tuberculosis vaccine!  The "zit" is what happens at the injection site when the vaccine "takes" in the body.  It's totally normal and it will take a few more months to totally heal.  Well, it won't totally heal.  I'll always have a small scar there.  And the doctor said I need to always keep my vaccination records with me cause if I'm ever tested for TB I'll show positive and will need to be able to prove I don't actually have TB. 

The doctor apologized and said he's been reminding the nurses over and over to make sure to tell expats about the vaccine so we know what will happen.  We aren't the only ones who have come in worried about a weird bump!

Here are a few pictures of me so you can see how I've grown.

I love sleeping on daddy

My big sister loves me so much but I don't really like her holding me.  I'd rather just watch her.

Hi!

Coy smile
Big smile!


Tuesday, May 21, 2013

31 Things I’ve Learned About Driving By Living in Oman

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When we moved to Oman, we started noticing a few little things that were different about the way some people drove here.  We laughed them off as “bad drivers” and Omani* eccentricities.  But after two years of driving here, I’ve come to realize that people really do drive differently here, and in a lot of ways, and while some of it is annoying but funny, some of it is a bit dangerous.   Yay for us as parents already worried enough with two young children in tow.

You know how moms always say be careful out there when you drive and you chide them back saying, “Mom, I’m a good driver!  Trust me!” and then she says “It’s not you I’m worried about, it’s the rest of the drivers out there”, that is what it’s like here to a much more serious note.  You absolutely have to be a defensive driver, and a driver who is paying attention at ALL times.   If you get stressed out easily as a driver, this is not the place for you.

So here is my list about what I’ve learned about driving from Omani and other Eastern expat drivers here in Oman. 

1.  Seatbelts are optional, even for children.  Carseats are too.  (This is a hard one to see, no humor here.)

2.   The word “merge” does not have any meaning associated with driving.  You’re on your own buddy.  No one will speed up or down to help you enter the highway, and often, you will be fighting to find a bit of space to enter, even if that means weaseling your way between to huge trucks who apparently don’t see you or don’t care.  And if someone does, BY CHANCE, slow down or speed up to let you in, they will do it wrong, and then you are just as screwed trying to merge.

3.  If you don’t take your foot off the brake when the light turns yellow to prepare to turn green, you will be honked at (lights turn yellow again before green here). 

4.  Stop signs are suggestions.  Stoplights are the only ones that matter.

5.  Headlights are a great way to communicate, not just illuminate the night.  They can mean good or bad things.  “Hey, move, I’m going way faster than you and you need to move over to get out of my way” or “Please, you first at this turn”.

6.  Right of way is another term that has no meaning.   You better watch out or you will be hit.  Or, they will stop to let you turn first when it’s not your right of way, which makes for a very confusing moment at the intersection as they flash their lights at you (see #5).

7.  Woman drivers are not good drivers.  Normally, this stereotype bothers me, but no, really, here, local Omani woman drivers are the worst.  They either drive way too fast and carelessly while texting (see #9), or they driver white knuckled and make nervous errors.  Either way, they are dangerous, so it’s best to stay a couple lanes away at all times.

8.  No local from Oman seems to know where they are going.   “Ah, my exit!” as they sweep across three lanes of traffic.  “Oh, this isn’t the lane I wanted to be in, let me just attempt to join your lane right in front of you, almost making you rear end me.”  “Oh, I wanted to turn at this intersection!  I’ll just turn anyways, even though I’m not in a turn lane and will cut in front of you.”

9.  Everyone can be texting on their cell phone while driving and it’s a good idea to look at it a lot while doing so.   There technically is a law here that using your cell phone while driving equals jail time, BUT it must never be enforced by the cops (see #20).   Please, people, at least call the person so you can watch the road!

10.   You do not want to get into a wreck with a big yellow tanker truck of you will be in a load of crap. (they are full of crap, literally).

11.  No one must be able to figure out left turns here without a light because there are medians and islands everywhere, so you have to wait to get to an intersection or a round about to U-turn on to the other side of the road.  This is probably good since they don’t seem to know where they are going as explained in #8, and could slam on their breaks at any moment to make their turn if the medians weren’t there.m Luckily, left turns are permitted in neighborhoods but even then, you could be in danger (see #6).

12.  Park in the shade or have a windshield screen, especially during the hot months because you will get a 3rd degree burn touching anything non-fabric upon entering your vehicle.  Thank Allah our landlord installed a parking shade last month.

13.  A car made for 6 people can easily carry 10.  See rule #1.  Squeeze in and children (and/or adults) on laps!

14.  Turn signals are pointless.  If I’m in a turn lane, you know what I’m doing, right (in theory cause #8 could apply)?  If I start to drift towards you, then I’m coming into your lane.  What else do you need to know, buddy?  The ONLY time they are necessary is if I forgot where I was going and got in the wrong lane that isn’t for turning, so I’ll put it on so you know I’m going to butt in front of you (again, #8). 

15.  The way to go is Pajero.   These are pretty hot SUV’s, no question there, and that is why ½ of Oman owns one.  And if they don’t own that, there are a bevy of other car models not seen in the US that are awesome.  Like our Nissan xTrail.  It would sell like hotcakes in the US!

16.  Rain = snow, dust storm = pea soup fog.  Drive accordingly.

17.  It is absolutely okay to park anywhere when the lot is full.  On the sidewalk (very handy if you have #15 or another SUV), behind someone, in the right lane on a street, anywhere!

18.  Speed really is monitored by radars here.  Learn where they are, and drive fast between them.  If you do get a ticket, that’s okay, we can just pay our fines when the time comes, especially since they don’t cost much (tickets incurred must be paid annually before your car registration is reapproved, but tickets do not affect your insurance.)  You know which Omanis have a lot of money because they are the ones flying down the highway and don’t break for the radars.  Now, if speeding and tickets actually started affecting insurance rates, THEN maybe things would change.  Maybe.

19.  Hope and cross your fingers that you don’t have car problems.   Communicating and scheduled car work/maintenance is a roller coaster that will just make you sick.  

20.  It’s not exactly clear what policemen do in Oman besides direct traffic when a light is out, drive on the highway, and blockade the roads when the Sultan or another important person is being driven somewhere.  I OCCASIONALLY see them on the side of the road with a pulled over car but why is a question. 

21.  You never go home the same way you got somewhere because of #11 and #24.  It’s almost impossible to do so.

22.  Passing is permitted anywhere, anytime.  Going to slow through the neighborhood?   Don’t mind me, I’ll just zip by you even if we are in a residential area with children and no sidewalks and there is a blind corner ahead.

23.  Taxis and buses can and will pull over anywhere to drop off and pick up riders.  Yes, this on ramp is a perfect place to pull over suddenly in front of me.   Why of course on top of this overpass is an ideal place for a worker bus pick up.

24.  If there is an off ramp, there is a 10% chance there is an on ramp for going back the other way on the highway.

25.  Roundabouts are awesome.

26.  Taking a taxi is done at your own risk.  They aren’t metered, may not have seat belts, and the driver probably doesn’t know where he is going.   Best bet is to find a friend or walk.

27.  All lanes on the highway are the fast lane or the slow lane.

28.  If the lane you are in has an arrow indicating it’s a turn lane ahead, it probably won’t be in another 100 feet.  Be ready to change lanes.

29.  It’s okay to drive a lot here cause gas is cheap and in supply.  $1 a gallon.  It’s like they are giving it away to us!

30.  There is no road rage here.  There may be a lot of aggressive drivers here, but they won't ever shake a fist at you, give you the bird, or act like they are going to side swipe you to try to scare you (yes, this happened to me in Oregon last summer by one driver).  

31.  Above all else, keep your car washed and spotless.  And don’t worry, it’s not hard to do.  There will almost always be a guy waiting to ask you if you want your car washed anywhere you park (this could even be at your own house by a worker walking by). 

*  Disclaimer-  If you are an Omani who has happened upon my blog and read this, please do not be offended.  Other nationalities make up the drivers here in Oman, like expat workers from India, Bangladesh, etc...  It is not just Omanis that drive this way, and of course, not all Omanis or other expats all drive the way I write about above.  All 31 items are generalities and listed for humor and fun as they are different than in the US and can make us crazy sometimes (although, as I said, some can be dangerous).

Friday, May 17, 2013

House Hunters International- The Greatest Sham ever (and we still love it)

Okay, before I start this blog, I will warn you that if you LOVE House Hunters, then I am going to burst your bubble and your eyes will be opened to the reality of this reality show.  You have been warned!  (P.S. I still love it despite what I know). 

At the beginning on the school year, we found out that a local couple had done House Hunters International here in Muscat (so excited cause I LOVE this show).  One of our teacher's sons went to the lady (Eliza) for guitar lessons and had been briefly taped during his lesson, so the word quickly spread that we would get to watch the episode later this spring, which turned out to be in April, and that Ethan might make an appearance (he did).

SO, the time finally arrived and one of my friends, Melanie, hosted a small get together for any ladies who wanted to come watch it at her house, and Eliza would be in attendance (since Eliza continued to teach guitar to other students and had gotten to know more of our staff).  We all were super excited for the night we could all gather and watch, and get some "insider details" on this TV show we all loved.  We didn't know what we were in for.

As we prepped to watch the show, Eliza let us in on the details, and our poor eyes got wider as we learned about the truth behind it all.  My friend Kelly about had a heart attack knowing her show was a sham. *   I guess we all knew it couldn't be 100% real, but we had no idea.

So, Eliza and her husband had been contacted by the show to be on it.  They never applied.  House Hunters producers had found them through Eliza's blog (see below) and wanted to tape in Muscat.  When they contacted her, Eliza said they weren't looking to move and already had a place.  The producers quickly told them, "That is okay, you don't have to move.  We can still do the taping and you go see different places.  In the end, you just pick the house you already live in and we'll empty it out for the taping so it looks for sale."  Aaaaaahhhhhh!

If you are hyperventilating at this point, catch you breath before moving on.

Here are the rest of the sad details:
-  Eliza was flown home to America to tape with family AS IF she was getting ready to move with her husband to Oman, although she's already lived her a few years.  It shows her talking to her family and friends and them asking her about Oman.
-  Most of their belongings were moved out and the large furniture left in, which on the show, was explained as it was a "partially furnished" unit.
-  One of the houses they went to look at "for sale" was actually HER FRIEND'S HOUSE that they also emptied out and was altered in some of its details.  Like, it's actually a 5 bedroom but since 2 rooms were storing all the furniture/boxes, it was listed as a 3 bedroom.  And the monthly rental price was also altered much lower for dramatic effect of a "great deal".
-  They were told to always find something they liked and didn't like for each place they saw.
-  The entire show they had to talk as if Eliza was still going to move there from the US and was only visiting to find the house.  There is a scene when they are walking on the beach and her husband asks if she can see herself living there. 
-  It took 5 days of filming to do the show.
-  They were not compensated for doing the show, except for Eliza's ticket to the US and back for taping, and all their food was paid for while shooting.

Okay, so there it is.  Do you feel deceived?  I know we all did.  BUT in the end, we watched it and loved it.  And, reality is, we will still watch the series and love it.  Because isn't that what good reality TV is?  Directed and scripted reality.

If you want to read more about Eliza and their experience and to see pictures, you can find it on her blog here:
http://pumpkinpolarbear.blogspot.com/2012/10/house-hunters-in-oman.html

Here is the HGTV website info on the show and air dates (showing again in June if you want to watch it):
http://www.hgtv.com/house-hunters-international/leaving-cape-cod-for-muscat-oman/index.html


* Okay, so maybe it's not ALWAYS a sham.  We all agreed that the International series is probably mostly like this with the different buying/renting situations in each country.  If you look up "house hunters international fake" online, you'll get plenty of articles confirming the fact and other examples.  The one filmed in the US may not be that way and much more "real".  Well, we hope. 

Monday, May 13, 2013

Embassy Adventures

Yesterday, Colin and I took the trip to the Embassy to submit all our forms for Emalyn's Overseas Birth Notification, Social Security number, and passport.   We finally got the official Omani Birth Certificates so we could have everything we needed.  And yes, I did say certificates cause you get two; one in English and one in Arabic.  AND they list the baby's Islamic birth date which we think is pretty darn cool (Emalyn's is the 5th of Jumada, 1434). 

Now, on to the Embassy story...

First, I will say that just getting inside the Embassy is an adventure.  If you think airport security is bad, this is worse.  I think the first time I went, they confiscated half of the contents of my purse which included a Tide-to-go stick, tooth picks, and chapstick (you do get it all back upon leaving).   They make you press the button on your key remote to prove it's not a bomb.  Your belongings and you are scanned.  Seriously, I am an American going into the AMERICAN Embassy.  I don't think bombing the building or killing anyone inside is on my agenda.  But anyways...

Once inside, it's like being at the DMV.  You go into a room with rows of chairs bolted to the floor, a TV playing something no one wants to watch (the news), old magazines, and a water cooler.  You sit nicely and wait for your number to light up on the board above the little room you get to go in to (which I will say barely fit two adults and a carseat and gets uncomfortably warm), stand at a counter, and meet with the representative on the other side of the glass who will help you out.  You slide paperwork and ID's back and forth through the tray under the window.  Now it's like being at a drive up window at a bank.  They review your applications and forms, stamp everything, sign it themselves, and make small talk.  The good thing is that these people are actually nice and cheerful, unlike the DMV.

Now, we just get to wait about 2 weeks for the passport, which I am super excited to see cause it will feature this adorable picture of Emalyn which we had done at the local hole-in-the-wall photo store.  I had to put a headband on her because otherwise, she would look like a boy or a girl at this stage.  Driving license and passport pictures are notoriously terrible of people (my husband and Aberly look like thugs) so we were pretty happy it came out so well and that she doesn't look like a newborn alien. :-)



Thursday, May 9, 2013

Emalyn update

1 Month already!

Emalyn has really been growing and surpassed the 9 lb mark at her two week appointment.  After another two weeks, I have no doubt she is close to 10 lbs since she is quickly outgrowing her newborn clothes!  Aberly continues to be a great big sister who loves her little sister! 

Look at all my hair!!!

At 1 month, she is becoming more vocal with her grunts and sounds, is more awake, loves to look around the room, watches us and her big sister, makes faces (see below), and is growing stronger in her neck movements.  While we love her new awareness and interest in the world, the downside is that she has a harder time falling asleep.  We are doing a lot more rocking, walking, and swaying to get her to sleep each day and night.  But it's all worth it to have this sweetie as a part of our family!  At 1 month, she has also developed the "baby acne" and has it all over her face and scalp.  :-(